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as are merely innocent, and have nothing else to recummend them but that there is no hurt in thein.
14. Wiether any kind of gaming, has even thus much to say for itself, I shall not determine : but I think it is very wonderful to see persons of the best sense, passing away a dozen hours together in shuffing and dividing a pack of cards with no other conversation but what is made up of a few game phrases, and no other ideas but those of black or red spots ranged together in different figures. Would not a man ļaugb to hear any one of his species complaining that life is shon?,
15. The stage might be made a perpetual source of the most noble and useful entertainments, were it under proper regulations.
16. But the mid never unbends itself so agreeable as in the conversation of a wellchosen friend. There is indeed no blessing of life that is any way comparable to the enjoyments of a discreet and virtuous friend. It eases and uploads the mind, clears and improves the understanding, engenders thoughts and knowledge, anupates virtue and good resolutions, sooths and aliays the passions, and finds employment for most of the vacaut hours of life
17. Next to such an intimacy, with a particular person, ene would endeavtur after a rore general conversation with such as are able to entertain, and improve those with whom they Corverse, which are qualifications that seldom go asunder.
18. There are many other useful amusements of Ife which one would endeavour'to multiply, that one might on all xecasions have recourse to something rather than &uffer the mind to lie idle or run adrift with any passion tbat chances to rise in it. * 19. A man that has taste in music, painting, or archie kecture, is like one that has another sense when compared with such as have no relish of these arts. The flow rists the planter, the gardner, the husband may, when they are only as accomplishments to the map of fortune, are great reliefs to a country life, and many ways useful io these bo are possessed of inem.
SPECTATOR, No. 93.
MODESTY. ESTY AT The first of all virtues is innocence; the second is modesty.
2. Modesty is both in its source, and in its consequenca, a very great happiness to the fair possessor of it; it arises from a fear of dishonour, and a good conscience, and is followed iminediately, upon its first appearance, with the reward of honour and este ein paid by all those who discover it in any body living.
3. It is indeed a virtue in a woman (that might otherwise be very disagreeable to one) so exquisitely delicate, that it excites in any beholder, of a generous and manly disposition, almost all the passions that he would be apt to.conceive for the mistress of his heart.in a variety of circumstances,
4. A woman that is modest creates in usan awe in her company, a wish for her welfare, a joy in her being actually happy, a sore and paintul sorrow if distress should come upon her, a ready and willing heart to give her. consolation, and a compassionate temper towards her, in every little accident of lite, she undergoes: and to sum up all in one word, it causes such a kind of angelical, love, even to a stranger, as good natured brothers and sisters, usually bear towards one another.
si li adds, wonderfully to the make of a face, and I' have seen a pretty, weil turped forehead, fine set eyes, and what your poets call a row of pearl set in coral, shewn by a pretty expansion of two velvet lips that covered them (that wouid have tempied any sober man living of my own, age, to have beert a little loose in his thoughts, and to have enjoyed a painful pleasure amidst his impoten-. cy.) lose all their virtue, all their force and efficacy, by having an ugly cast of boldness very discernibly spread, out at large over all those alluring features. 6. At the same time modesty will fill up the wrinkles
age with glosy; make, sixty blust itself into sixteen ; and help a green sick girl to defeat the satire of a false wagyish kover, who might compare ter colour, when she lo ked like a ghost, to the blowing of the rose bud, byblushing herself mio a bloom of beauty, and might make what he meant a reflection, a real compliment, at
any hour of the day, in spite of his teeth. It has a prevailing power with me, whenever I find it in the sex.
7. I who have the common fault of old men, to be; very sour and humoursome, whenl drink my water guet in a morning, fell into a more than ordinary pet with a maid, whom I call my nurse, from a constant tenderness, that I have observed her to exercise towards me beyond all my
otiier servants; I perceived her flush and glow in thie face; in a manner which I could plainly discern proceeded not from anger or resentment of my curs rection, but from a good-natured regret, upon a fear tlat she had offended her grave old master.
8. I was so beartily pleased; tha! I 'eased her of the honest trouble she underwent inwardly for mv sake; and giving her half a crown, I told her it was a foreit due to her, because I was out of humour with her without all: reason at all. And as she is so gentle hearted, I have diligentl a?oided giving her one harsh word ever since; and I find my own reward in it: 'trs not being so testy as I used, has made me much hater and stronger than I.. was before.
9. The pretty, and witty, and virtuous Simplicia, was, the other day, visiting with an oid aunt of hers, that I Verily believe has read the Atalantis : she took a story out there, and dressed up an old honest neighbour in the second-hand cloaths of scá- dal. The young creature bid her face with her fan ar ery barst and peal of laughter, and blushed for her y parent;' by which she atoned,'. methought, for ever candel'iba: ran round the beauties ful circle.
10. As I was going home to bed that evening, I could not help thinking of her all the way I went. I represented her to myself as 'shedding holy blood every time she bushed, and as being a martyr in the cause of virtue. And, af erwards, when I was puiting on my night-cap, I could not drive the thought out of my head, but that I. was young en 'ugh to be married to her; and thai it would be an addition to the reputation I have in the stud, of wisdom, to marry to so much youth atid modes** ty', een in my old age.
ri: 'I know there liave not beeo wanting many wickait et objectivhs against this virtue: dve is
grown jesutier ably Cova Mon. I he fellow biushes, he is uilty. I bould ay rather, he blushes, therefore he is innvocato de
tieve the same man, that first had that wicked imagination of a blush being the sign of guilt, represented goodnature to be folly; and that he himself, was the most, inhuman and impudent wreich ali e.
12, The author of Cuto, who is known to be one of the most modest and mos: ingenious persons of the age wę now live in, has given this virtue a delicate name in the tragedy of Cato, where the character of Marcia is first opened to us. I would have all ladies who ijave a mind; to be thought well bred, to think seriously on this vire. tue, which he so beautifully calls the sanctity of inanners.,
13. Modesty is a polite accomplishment, and generally an attendant upon mesit. It is engaging to the highest degree, and wins the hearts of all our acquaintance. On the contrary, none are more disgustful in company thall the impudent and presuming.
14. The man who is, on all occasions, commending and speaking well of himseif, we naturally dislike. On the other hand, lie who studies to conceal his own deserts, who does justice to the merit of others, wbu talks but little of Himself, and that witi modesty, inakes a favourable impression on the persons he is conversing with, captivates their minds, and gains their esteem.
15. Modesty, however, widely differs from an awke ward bastıfulness, which is as much to be cundemned as the other is to be applauded. To appear simple is as ill-bred as to be impudent. A yung mau ought to be able to come into a roo- an l address the çimpany; without the least einbarrassment. To be our of countenance when spoken to. and not to have an answer ready, is ridiculous to the last degree.
16. An awkward country fellow, when he comes into company better than hinself, is exceedingly disconcerted. He knows not what to do with his hands or his bat; but either puts one of them in his pocket, and dangles the other by his side: or perhaps whirls his hat on his fingers: or fumbles with the button. If spoken to he is in a much worse situation; he answers with the utmost difficulty, and nearly stammers ; whereas a gentleman, who is acquaint-> ed with life,enters a room with gracefulness and a modest assurance, addresses even persons he does not know, in an easy natural manner, and without the least embarrassment
17. This is the characteristic of good-breeding, a very: necessary knowledge in our intercourse with men : for one of inferior parts, with the behaviour of a gentleman, is frequently beiter received than a man of sense, with the address and manners of a clown. Ignorance and vice are the only things we need be ashamed of ; steer dear of these, and you may go into any company you will : not that I would have a young man throw off all dread of appearing abroad, a fear of offending, or being disesteented, will make him preserve a proper decorum,
18. Some persons, from experiencing false modes. ty, have run into the other extreme, and acquired the character of inpudent. This is as great a fault as the other. . A well-bred man keeps himself within the two, and steers the middle way. He is easy and firm in every company; is modest, but not bashful; steady, but not impudent. He copies the manners of the better people, and conforms to their customs with ease and attention.
19. Till we can present ourselves in all companies with coolne.s and unconcern, we can ever present ourselves well; nor will a mali ever be supposed by bave kept goed company, or ever be acceptable in such company, if he cannot appear there easy and unembarrassed: A modest assurance, in every part of life, is the most advantageous qualification'we can possibly acquire.
20. Instead of becoming insolent, a man of sense under & Consciou ness of merit, is more modest. He be. haves him elfindeed with firmness, but without the leasť presumption. The man who is ignorant of his own merit, is no less a fol than he who is constantly displaying it. A man of understanding avails himself of bis. abilities, but nerer boasts of them : whereas the timid" and bashfut can never push himself in life, be his merit as great as it will: he will be alevays.kept behind by the forward and the bustling. ->> 21. A man of abilities, and acqiiainted with life, will stand as fini in defence of his ow a rights, and pursue his plans as steadily and unmäved as the most impudent man alive; but then he does it with a seeming modesty Tous manner is everything; what is impudence in ene