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Maidens, like pearls and peacocks, are valued most when they are whitest.
A corrupt young man may lay aside a good book, walk up nnd down his room with hot tears, and cry out "I will change my life "—and hold to it
But I have heard of but few women who have thus changed themselves.
In the world's opinion, men's faults are specks, leaving little or no scar; but women's are pock-marks, deeply traced in the memory alter recovery —in the public memory at least Jean Paul Riciitek.
In education, the, peculiar qualities of each sex need an appropriate treatment
The nature of girls, predominantly susceptible, dependent therefore upon immediate feeling, sensitive, introverted, adapted to a narrow sphere, troubled at small things, should not be trained to noisy cheerfulness, to predominant mental activity, to oiear and comprehensive generalizing, to universal tendencies in science, to a strictly logical process of thought, to rough openness of manner, to the more vivid, general, and outward phases of activity, such as are proper for boys; unless it is desired to carry them quite out of their sphere and to destroy in the germ the charm of lovely womanhood.
And on the other hand it should not be required of the predominantly active and outwardly tending minds of boys, to be as easily affected, as diligently applied to little things, as delicate in externals, as girls, whose proper sphere of action is that of propriety;—unless the pupil is to be mode a pedant, and his faculties, which are intended to be exerted outwardly, are to be crippled. Benda.
As the natural character of the sexes is different, physically and mentally, and as their departments uT destined exertion arc different, so must their education, while similar in general, yet be essentially different in subordinate details.
The home of the man is to be the world; the world of woman, her home.
However fearful would be the punishment of bringing up a man for woman's sphere of duty, as heavy a curse would rest upon the endeavor to bring up a woman for the occupations of a man.
The boy is endowed with clear understanding, predominant reason and firm will, corporally fitted to strive with fate, to exert a powerful activity outwardly: the girl, with lively and tender feelings, a vivid imagination, a weaker will; she is corporally unfit to act upon the outer world, to operate on a large scale, to generalize. Thus do the two sexes differ; from this point must their respective educations proceed; towards a corresponding purpose must their discipline be directed, in order to the protection and development of the nobler germs of character, and to the improvement or extirpation of bad ones.
In plainer terms: Boys' should he trained -to be men, citizens, husbands, fathers; girls, to be tsue and tender women, wives and mothers.
Anything short of yris, or beyond jt, is wrong.
In the education of boys, maxims of boldness should be applied; in that of women, those of prudence. Schleierxacher.
The future sphere for man is outside, in the world; in pushing and striving amongst men; there is his school.
The future theatre of feminine greatness is the family; and that is the school for girls. '^
To bo a loving wife, a cheerful life companion, a diligent housewife, the guardian of her children, such is woman's vocation.
To-day, as much as in gray antiquity, these are still the requisites of the wife of a farmer or of a prince; except that each should also possess the easily acquired knowledge which is needed.
Easily acquired—for the daughters of the great have been seen living in a low estate and earning a living by the labor of their hands; and the daughters of low-born men have nobly filled royal thrones.
Woman is, in her nature and in her perfection, a noble counterpart of man.
He is formed to labor and act in the struggle of the outer world; she, to govern the quiet world of domestic life, beneath the roof of her home. He is fearless, defiant, bold in danger, that he may combat opposition, or bear it down by sheer strength; she governs by grace and mildness. He, investigating and estimating everything, skillful in all manner of handiwork and arrangement, becomes almost able to create; she, the priestess of natural duties and destinies, exhibits her most valuable qualities in controlling these.
As the outward world is contrasted with the inward, art with nature, strength with gracefulness, so is man in this world contrasted with woman.
Beyond this world the destiny of both is the same; religion is the everlasting crown of life to both.
These principles enable us to recognize the principal points of woman's vocation, and the clearly marked boundaries of the course of her education. ZsCUOKKE.
Mighty art thou, O woman, by the quiet charm of thy presence.
But what thou canst not do in quiet, by violence ne'er can be done.
Power I look for from man; and laws arc made to restrain him.
But woman governs by sweetness; should govern by sweetness alone.
'Tis true that many have ruled by might of will and of action;
But the loftiest crown of all was never attained by these.
The true queen ruleth alone by woman's womanly beauty—
Rulcth wherever seen; because she is seen, she ruleth. Schiller.
The utterly false assumption that a girl needs to know but little, has already borne bitter fruit in the education of the female children of our people.
We consider all over-education—and of course that of the female sex— a misfortune. But it is not a less one, to have youths and maidens go forth into the world and enter upon their duties in life without such knowledge and skill as is indispensable; without having acquired such an extent and profundity of moral, intellectual and aesthetic training, as to feel themselves fully prepared for the vocation that awaits them.
Unfortunately, however, the education of girls is quite insufficient, especially in comparison with that of boys.
This ought no longer to be the case; in part for the sake of the female sox themselves, and in part for the sake of the human race collectively.
For to what other hands will the coming generation confide the bringing up and education of their children, than to those of their mothers?
But where shall these find the power, capacity and skill, required for instructing others, if they do not themselves possess it? (Luke, vi; 89.)
It is not entertaining too sanguine hopes, to expect that a more appropriate and thorough, comprehensive and systematical education of females, having a wiser and more practical reference to their future situation and duties, would produce improvements among our common people, which could scarcely be reached by any other means.
For as is the root, so is the tree; and as is the tree, so is the fruit The answer of Madame Cainpan to Napoleon's question, what deficiency was preventing the prosperity of the education of youth, notwithstanding all the institutions for the purpose? namely, that " There was a deficiency of mothers," is a very significant one, and suggests many reflections.
The purer the gold of a vessel, the more easily is it bent The highest grace of feminine excellence is more easily corruptible than the masculine.
Nature herself has provided a born protection and guard for these delicate souls; namely, modesty in speaking and hearing.
This protection should be observed; and should be used as an indication of nature of the proper method in education.
Mother, father, husband, children even, are the best company for young women. Their acquaintance with other young women of about the same age consists of an exchange of their weaknesses rather than their good qualities.
Some dissuasives are such as to serve at once for a persuasion and a bait
If parents set a good example, they will not find themselves under the necessity of adding any further reinforcement to the natural power of modesty, that wing-cover of the wings of Psyche.
Instruction despoils the child, first, of his innocent unconsciousness of modesty, and afterwards of the quiet influence of it
The children of Quakers arc of mild dispositions, without any punishment; for thoy see their parents always as calm amongst uncongenial surroundings as snow-white stars looking forth among stormy clouds.
Girls, instead of silly ornamental occupations, should occupy themselves in the various employments of the household; whose constant change and incessant demands on the attention will prevent all dreaming and reverie. In their earlier youth they should learn cooking, and then gardening; afterwards, the administration of the household, and account-keeping.
A wife is like the minister of a small state; she is at the head of all the home departments at once. The husband has charge of foreign affairs.
Girls should learn whatever develops and trains the application of the bodily senses and the use of the eyes; such as botany, that inexhaustible, peaceful, ever fruitful science, which knits us to nature by soft flowery chains; and astronomy, not merely mathematical, but religious; which widens our world, and expands our souls along with it
I would also advise mathematics, especially the simplest principles of pure and applied mathematics, and a corresponding portion of geometry.
Geography; not a mere register of localities, which would be of little value for the mental culture of women, and of little practical use; but with reference to what it contains of solid and real history, both of man and of the earth.
History; that variety of it which only leads from one antiquity to another, as studied by girls, can not contain too small a number of dates and names, nor can it be rich enough in great men and great actions, the knowledge of which elevates the soul above mere histories of cities and suburbs.
Music, vocal and instrumental, belongs to the female soul; it is the Orphean sound which will lead her safely past thousands of siren songs; and whose youthful echo will accompany her far within the autumn of married life.
Drawing, on the contrary, at least if cultivated hcyond a sufficient knowledge of its rudiments to train the eye and the taste, deprives children and family employments of too much time; so that time spent in it is usually lost
One foreign language is necessary as a means of intelligent companion and study with our own; but one is enough.
Inspire the heart; and then it will long not for light, but for the ethereal atmosphere of heaven. Jean I'.vi i. Kiciiter.
A husband should be earnest and industrious, and should support his wife and children honestly and respectably. He should not bo a spendthrift, nor waste in drinking what his wife saves at home. Also he should be of good conduct; neither a wolf nor a lion, so that his wife may not be fearful and afraid of him. And lastly he should be upright; so that his word may be a Yes, and Amen.
A wife should be domestic, industrious, and should economically manage all that her husband so laboriously and honorably earns; not given over to sloth, laziness, and gluttony, which would bring both husband and children together to beggary. And she must be obedient; not growling, murmuring, grumbling, snarling, complaining, &c; and good natured too.
With one judicious pleasant word, a wife can bring over her husband, and gain his consent
But a contrary and obstinate wife is a great burden to her husband.
And who would not rather live among the wolves, than with a bittertempered wife r
What is more destructive to the lovely peace which should prevail at home, than the bad temper and obstinacy of a disobedient and ill-conducted wife?
For disobedience is followed by contempt for the husband; and that by violent anger.
It is far better to obey and live in peace, than to strike and bite and quarrel.
It is and must be the prerogative of the head—the husband—to govern; and the members must do the will of the head.
Lastly, a wife should be serious; not running after follies, but finding her enjoyment in managing her household. Mosciiekoscii.
Girls, of all ranks and of whatever circumstances, should obtain practical skill in housekeeping; for during subsequent married life, even should they be in the easiest circumstances, they should always have a general oversight of their household, and bo able to judge correctly of its affairs. They must know what can fairly be required of their servants; for too much is as often demanded of them as too little.
Early practice will enable a wife to conduct even a difficult household, and at the same time to do this with such case and despatch as to have strength and leisure for intellectual employments.
A woman of good judgment, even without previous experience, can learn to keep house, by means of a firm resolution and diligent application; but her mind will be much absorbed in the work, and she will never be free from a certain anxiety, arising from the unaccustomed nature of the employment
A Christian and well educated wife, whose quiet, intelligent and patient activity makes little display in words, and still less in constant, restless haste and scolding impatience, whose virtues and abilities will make her house so comfortable to her husband that he desires to stay in no other place, who educates her children judiciously to a Christian piety, without suffering any of the faculties which are the gift of the Lord only to be neglected or perverted into a false and aarrow pietism,—such a wife should be the ideal of female education; in such an ideal is intimately united a mastery of domestic duties, and a high grade of mental training.
Nothing is so much neglected as the education of girls.
Have not women duties which are the basis of their whole lives? Is it not they who destroy or build up families? They exert a most powerful influence upon the good or bad morals of almost all the world.
An intelligent, industrious and deeply religious wife is the soul of a whole great household; she controls it both in its temporal and eternal welfare.
Ignorance is often a cause which occasions girls to be at a loss for employment, and to busy themselves in ways not innocent
If women reach a certain age without being accustomed to serious employments, they can neither acquire a taste for them, nor learn to value them properly. Fenelon.
Attractiveness is more valuable than beauty.
Beauty is an earthly quality, and fades in a few years; but attractiveness is a charm of the soul, and adorns even old age.
There are many beautiful forms and regular features. But what pleases the senses does not always attract the mind.
It is often the caso that beautiful women are destitute of that charm whoso sweetness, unfeigned regard for others, and undeflnable dignity, enchants the hearts of all.
Beauty quickly gives pleasure, but does not continue always to do so. Attractiveness renders even serious defects loveable, and establishes, though slowly, an enduring dominion.
It is too commonly the case that women, in their desire to please, and to rule by pleasing, exchange their native agrecableness, even during the period of education, for external politeness, gracefulness of attitude and motion, and elegance of manners. But this is only painting a faded cheek; a counterfeiting what is not really possessed.
As beauty is the charm of the senses, so is attractiveness of the mind; a charm which beams through the corporeal envelope of the body, and ennoble-; it
As the strength, mental power and tone of thought in a man, are indicated without his knowing it, in his features, his words, the tone of his voice, his step, his motions, so are the innocence, mildness, and nobility of the feminine character indicated in woman's exterior, without any artifice or design.
It is not a fashionable taste that gives attractiveness; but attractiveness, which often shows itself in trifling matters, which gives the laws of good taste.
The nobler tho internal character, the nobler will the external be.
Therefore a higher degree of attractiveness accompanies outward purity and simplicity, than the richest adornment; for the former exemplify the virtues of the possessor, the latter her vanity. Zschokke.
While a man who devotes himself to any elevated calling, should always have well studied the fates of the most important nations of the world, it would be inappropriate to require tho same of women.
History, as studied by girls, should be directed to the cultivation of their sensibilities, their feelings, their sense of the great and noblo; not tho mere cramming of the memory.
The extent of what is to be committed to memory should be as limited as possible.
A chronological error is much less injurious to a young girl, than the least appearance to a pretension to. historical learning.
It is self-evident that it will be of great service to a young girl, to be made acquainted with the livesand characters of the best feminine models.