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have returned froin their wild excursions in the regions of diflipation, as the bird, after fluttering in the air descends into her neft, to partake and increale its genial warmth with her young ones.
6. Such and so sweet are the comforts of home, when not perverted by the folly and weakness of pan. Jodifference, and a carelessness on the subject of pleasing those whom it is eur best interest to please, often render it a feene of dulnefa And infipidity
7. Happy if the evil extended no farther. But the tranfition from the negative state of not being pleased, to polie rive ill humour, is but too easy. Fretfulness and peevishs ness arife, as nettles vegetate, fpontaneously, where to falutary plants are cultivated. One unkind expression infallibly generates many others. Trifles light as air, are able 19 kindle the blaze of contention.
8. By frequent confli&ts and unreserved familiarity, all that mutual respect which is necessary to preserve love, exen in the most intiinate connections, is entirely loft; and the faint affection which remains, is too feeble to be felt amid the furious operation of the hateful paffions,
9. Farewell peace and tranquility, and cheerful converfe; and all the boalted comforts of the family circle. The neft, which should preserve a perpetual warmth by the constancy of paternal and conjugal affection, is rendered cold and joy. lefs. In the place of the foft down which should cover is, are fubstituted thorns and briars.
10. The waters of Atrife, to make use of the beautiful ak allufion of fcripture, rush in with, impetuous violence and ruffle and difcolor that streain, which, in its natural and una Bilturbed current, devolves its waters all smooth and lipid,
II. But it is not neceffary to expatiate on the misery, of family diffention. I mean more particularly to fuggeft, fae mily diffention, besides all its own immediaite evils, is the fruitful parent of moral misconduct.
112: When the several parts, which compose a family, find themselves uneasy in thas home which is naturally the feat of mutual enjoyment, they are tempted froin the straigha road of common prudence, to pursue their happiness through adevious wild of passion and imagination.
13. The fon arrived at 'years of maturity, who is treated
harshly at home, will feldom spend his evenings at the domestic fire fide. If he lives in the city, he will fly for refuge to company, and in the end, it is very probable he will form fome unhappy connection, which cannot be continued without a plentiful supply of money.
14. Money, it is probable, cannot be procured. What then remains, but to pursue those methods which unprin. cipled ingenuity has invented, and which fooner or later, lead to their proper punishments, pain, shame and death!
15. But though the consequences are not always fach as the operation of human laws produce, yet they are always terrible, and destructive of happiness and virtue. * 16. Mifery is indeed the neceffary-relult of all deviation from rectitude ; but early debauchery, early difcafe, early profligacy of all kinds, are . peculiarly fruitful of wretchedness, as they fow the feeds of mifery in the fpring of life, when all that is fown takes deep root, and buds and blossoms, and brings forth fruit in profuse abundance.
'17. - In the disagreements between children and parents, it is certain that the children are usually inost culpable. Their violent passions and defective experience, render them disobedient and undutiful. Their love of pleafure operates fo violently as often to destroy the fource of filial affe&tion.
18. A parent is ftung to the heart by the ingratitude of a child. He checks his precipitancy, and perhaps with too little command of tensper ; for who can always hold the reins? Afperity produces afperity. But the child was the aggressor, and therefore deferves a great part of the misery which ensues.
19. It is, however, certain that the parent is often irr. prudent, as well as the child undutiful." He should endea." vour to render home agreeable, by gentlevels and reasonable indulgence : For man, at every age, seeks to bre pleased, but more particularly at the juvenile age.
He should indeed maintain his "anthority; but it fhould be like the mild dominion of a limited monarch, and not the iron rule of an auftere tyrant. If home is rendered: pleasing, it will not be long deserted. The prodigal will foon return, when his father's house is always ready to receive him with joy.
21. Wirat is said of the consequences of domestic difus nion to fons, is equally to be applied to daughters. Indeed, as the misconduct of daughters is more fatal to family peace, though perhaps not inore heinous in a moral view, particular care should be taken to render them attached to the comforts of the fainily circle.
22. Wheu their home is disagreeable, they will be ready to make any exchange; and will often lose their characters, virtue and happinefs in the pursuit of it. Indeed the female character and happiness, are so easily injured, that no folitude, can be too great in their preservation. But pru. dence is necessary in every good cause as well as zeal; and is found by experience that the gentlest method of going vernment if »it is limited and directed by good senfe is the beft. 1. 23. It ought indeed to be feady, but not rigid; and every pleasure which is innocent in itself, and in its consex quences, ought to be admitted, with a view to render less digreeable that unwinking vigilence, which a delicate and fenfible parent will judge neceflary to be used in the care of a daughter.
134. To what wickednefs as well as wretchedness, matr tinonial disagreements lead, every day's history will clearly inform us. When the husband is driven from his home by a termagant, lie will seek enjoyment which is denied hirm at home; in the haunts of vice, and in the riots of intemperanice: Nor can female corruption be wondered at, though it must be greatly pitied and regretted, when, in the heart of a husband, which love and friendship should warm, hatred is found to rankle.
25. Conjugal infelicity not only renders life most uncom, fortable, but leads to desperate diffoluteness and careleflness in manners, which terminates in the ruin of health, peace and fortune.
26. But it avails little to point out evils without recon mending a remedy. One of the first rules which fuggeks itself is, that families fhauld endeavour, by often and feribully reflecting on the subje&, to convince themfelves tha: not only the enjoyments, but the virtue of every individual, "greatly' depends on a cordial unionit i
27. When they are convinced of this, they will endes. vor to promote it; and it fortunately happens, that the News
ry with and attempt of every individual most infallibly fecure füccefs. It may, indeed, be difficult to restrain the? oce afional sallies of temper; but where there is, in the more difpasionate inoments; a settled defire to preserve doinestic union, the tranfient violence of paflion will not often produce a permanent rupture.
28. It is another inost excellent rule, to avoid a grofs fá. miliarity, even where the connection is most intimate. The human heart is fo constituted as to love respect. It would indeed be unnatural in very intimate friends to behave to each other with stiffnefs, but there is a delicacy of manner, and a flattering deference, that tends to preserve that degree of esteem, which is necessary to fupport affection, and which is loft in contempt, when it deviates into exceffive familiarity:
29. An habitual politeness of manners will prevent even indifference from degenerating to hatred. It will refine, exalt and perpetuate affection.
30. But the best and most efficacious rule is, that we should not think our inoral and religious duties are only to be practised in public, and in the fight of those froin whose applause we expe&t the gratification of our vanity, ambition or avarice : But that we should be equally attentive to our behavior among thofe who can only pay us by reciprocal love.
31. We must fhew the fincerity of our principles and profeffions, by acting confiftent with them, not only in the legislature, in the field, in the pulpit, at the bar, or in any public affcmbly, but at the fire fide:
" Well! But may be," says the good old woman, "it will go off, d even if it is not charged." " But there is no lock on it ma'am," "O dear Billy; I am afraid the hollow thing there, the barrel I think you call it, will fhooty if there is no lock.”
2. Don't laugh at the old Lady. Two thirds of our fears and apprehenfiong of the evils and mischiefs of this Jife, are just as well grounded, as hers were
in this case. <1 3. There are many unavoidable evils in life, which if
becomes us as men and as Christians, to bear with fortitude ; apd there is a certain period assigned to us all, and yet dreaded by most of us, wherein we must conflict with death and finally lose connection with all things beneath the fun. These things are beyond our utmost power to refift, or fagacity to evade.
: 4. It is our wifest part, therefore, to prepare to encounter them, in such a manner as shall do honour to our profef. fion, and manifest a perfect conformity to that directory on which our profession frands. But why need we antieipite unavoidable evils, and “ feel a thousand deaths in fearing
5. Why veel a woman be everlafting burying her chile dren, in her imagination, and spend her whole tine in a fancied course of bereavement, because they are mortal, and must die fome time or other? A divine teacher fiy's, fufficient for the day is the evil thereof;" but we put new and umecessary gall in all the bitter cup; we bave tu drink in life, by artfully mixing, sipping, and Imelling - beforehand; like the fqueamih patient, who, by viewing and thinking of his phyfic, brings a greater distress and burden on his stomach, before he takes it, than the physic itfelf could ever have done.
6. Lwould have people be more careful of fire arms than they are : I don't take a gun barrel, unconnected with powder and lock, to ne more dangerous than a broomStick,
7. Sergeant Tremble and his wife, during a time of general health, feel as easy and secure as if their children were immortal. Now and then a neighbour drops off with a consumption, or an apoplexy ; but that makes no impression, as all their children are plump and hearty.
8. If thererare no cancers, dysenteries, small.pox, bladders in the throat, and such like things to be heard of, they almost bid defiance to death : but the moment information was given that a child fix miles off, bad the throat disemper, all comfort bade adieu to the houfe ; and the misery then endured from dreadful apprehenfions, left the difeale should enter the family, is unspeakable.
9. The old fergeant thought that when the wind blew from that quarter, he could smell the infection, and therefore ordered the children to keep house, and drink worm