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hear a whifper, which a person does not wil to have kagym even when she is in no danger of detection. • 17. The fame delicate attention to the feelings of others regulates her conduct in company. She would not, for the price of her's reputation, be found laughing or whispering with one in the company. - All nods, grimaces, Aly looks, and half speeches, the cause of which is not known, are carefully avoided by her and reprobated as the height of ill breeding, and the grofleft insalt to the company
18. Whenever this happens between two persons, the rest of the company have a just right to consider themselves the objects of their ridicule. But it is a maxim of Juliana that such conduct is a breach of politeness, which no od ditios, or miftakes that happen in public company, can ex enfe or palliate.
19. It is very common for persons who are deftitute of éertain accomplishments which they admire in other people, to endeavor to imitate them. This is the source of affeco tation, a fault that infallibly expofes a person to ridicule. But the ornaments of the heart, the dress and the manners of Juliana, are equally eafy and natural
... 20. She need not to assume the appearance of good qualities wbich she poffe fles in reality ; nature has given too many beauties to her perfon, to require the ftudied embellishments of fashion; and fuch are the eafe and gracefulness of her behavior, that any attempt to improve them would leffen the dignity of her manners.
21. She is equally a stranger to that supercilious importance which affects to despise the fmallyrbat necessary concerns of life; and that fqueainish falfe delicacy which is wounded with every trifle.
22. She will not neglect a fervant in sickness because of the meanness of his employment; the will not abuse an ani** mal for her own pleafüre and amusement; nor will the go into fits for the diftrefs of a favorite cat. opet :
23. Her gentle fout is never disturbed with difcontent, onvy or resentment ; those turbulent pafions which fó often deftroy the.peace of fociety as well as of individuals, The native firmnefs and ferenity of mind forbid the intru: fion of violent eiuotions.; "at the fame tiine her heart; Tusceptible and kiud, is the foft refidence of every virtuous affectielta
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$24. She haftains the unavoidable fhocks of adverlity, with a calmness that indicates the fuperiority of her soul ; and with the fmile of joy or the tear of tendergess,, me partici, pates the pleafures or the sorrows of a friend.
25. But the discretion and generosity of Juliana, are particularly distinguished by the number and fincerity of her attachments, Her friendships are few, but they are all founded on the principles of benevolence and fidelity. Such confidence do her fincerity, her constancy and her faithful, nefs inspire, that her friends commię to her breast, their moft private concerns, without fufpicion.
86. It is her favorite maxim, that a neceffity of exacting promises of fecrecy, is a burlesque upon every pretention to friendsħip. Such is the character of the young, the amiable Juliana. : 27. If it is poflible for her to find a man who knows her worth, and has a dispofition and virtue to reward it, the union of their hearts muit secure that unmingled felicity in life, which is reserved for genuine love, a paflion inspired by fenfibility, and improved by a perpetual intercourse of kind offices.
RULES FOR BEHAVIOUR,
Command and direct your attention to the prefent object, and let diftant objects be banished from the mind. There is time enough for every thing in the course of the day, if you do but one thing at once ; but there is not time enough in the year, if you will do two things at a time.
2. Never attempt to tell a story with which you are not well acquainted ; nor fatigue your hearers with relaung little trifling circumstances. Do not interrupt the thread of discourse with a thousand bems, and by repeat. ing often says be, and said I. Relate the principal points with clearness and precilon, and you will be heard with pleasure.
3. There is a difference between modefty and bashfulgessé Modesty is the characteriftic of an amiable mind; bashfulness discovers a degree of meanness. Nothing Ginks youg man into low company fo surely as bashfulness.
4. If he thinks he shall not pleate, he molt Carely will
How minds, but thould be despised by
Not: Vice arid ignorance are the only things we ought to He ashamed of ; while we keep clear of them we may venture any where without fear or concern.
5. Frequent good company copy their mangetsu-imia tate their virtues and accomplishments » 1: 6. Be not very free in your remarks upon characters. There may be in all companies, more wrong heads tlian right enes--more people who will deserve than who wilt bear cenfure.
7. Never hold any body by the button or the hand, in order to be heard through your Atory; for if the people are not willing to hear you, you had niueh better hold your 'tongue than hold then. dheim 1773
8. Never whifper in company. Converfation is common stock, in which all perfons present have a right to claim their share. Always llisten when you i
- are fpoken to g. and never interrupt a speaker.! ? 9. Be not forward-in leading the conversation this bea tongs to the oldeft perfon's in company. Difplay your learn ing only on particular occasions? Never oppose the opinion of another but with great modesty.
io. On all occasions avoid fpeaking of yourself, if it is possible. Nothing that we can say of ourselves will varwith our defests, or add Instre to ou virtues; but on the contrary, it will often make the former more visible, and the latter, obscure.
u 11. Be frank, open, and ingenuous in your behaviour and always look people in the face when you speak to them. Never receive nor retail fcandal. In scandal, as in robbery, the receiver is as bad as the thief. 912. Never reflect upon bodies of men, either clergymen, lawyers, physicians, or foldiers ; nor upon nations and for Cieties. There are good as well as bad, in all orders of men, and in all countries. Frii? Mimickry is a common and favourite amusement at
We Ahould neither practise it ourselves, nor praise it in otherti Let:
t your expenses be less than your income
14. A fool Iguanders away, without credit or advantage to himself, more than a man of sense spends with both. A wise man einploys his money, as he does his time; he erer' Spends & filling of the one, nor a minute of the
all great onesi
other, but in fomething that is either ufeful or rationally pleasing. The fool buys what he does not want, but does not pay
for wliat he stands in need of. 15. Form no friendships hastily. Study a character well before you put confidence in the perfon. Every person is entitled to civility, but very few to confidence. The SpaDish proverb says, “ Tell me whom you live with, and I will tell you who you are." The English fay, “A man is known by the company he keeps."
i6. Good breeding does not confift in low bows, and formal ceremony; But in an eafy, civil, and relpe&tful behavior, ,
17. A well bred man is polite to every person, but parti. cularly to strangers. In mixed companies every person who is admitted, is supposed to be on a footing of equality with the reft, and consequently claims very justly every mark of civility.
-18. Be very attentive to neatness. The hands, nails and teeth mould be kept clean." A dirty mouth is not only disagreeable, as it occasions an offensive breath, but almost infailíbly caufes a decay and lofs of teeth.
19. Never put your fingers in your nose or ears it is a nafty, vulgar rudeness, and an affront to company.
20. Be not a floven in dress; nor a fop. Let your dress be vieat, and as fashionable as your circumstances and convemence will admit. It is said, that a man who is negligent at twenty years of age, will be a loven at forty, and intolerable at fifty,
21. It is necessary sometimes to be in baste; but always wrong to be in a hurry. A man in a hurry perplexes himfelf; he wants to do every thing at once, and does nothing at all.
22. Frequent and loud laughter, is the characteristic of 'folly and ill manners -It is the manner in which filly people express their joy at filly things.
23. Huinming i tune within yourself, drumming with your fingers, making a noise with the feet, whistling, and such a wkward habits, are all breaches of good manners, and indicationis of contempt for the persons present.
24. When you meet people in the street, or in a public lace, never stare theni full in the face. :
in company with a dranger, neves
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begin to question him about his name, his place of residence, and his business. This impudent curiosity is the height of ill manners.
26. Some perfons apologize, in a good na tured manner, for their inquisitiveness, by an “ if I may be fo bold; • If I may take the liberty," or, “ Pray Sir excuse my freedom.” Thefe attempts to excuse one's felf, imply that a man thinks bimself an impudent fellow-and if he does not, other people thank he is, and treat him 28 fuch,
27. Above all adhere to morals and religion, with im moveable firmness. Whatever effect, outward fhow and accomplishments may have, in recommending a man to otbers, none but the good is really happy in bimself. FAMILY DISAGREEMENTS the frequent cause of IMMO
man affairs, it is undoubtedly true, that more misery is produced among us by the irregularities of our tem, pers, than by real misfortunes.
2. And it is a circunstance particularly uphappy, that these irregularities of the temper are most apt to display themselves at our fre fides, where every thing ought to be tranquil and ferene.
3. But the truth is, we are awed by the presence of strangers, and are afraid of appearing weak and ill natured, when we act in sight of the world; and fo, very heroically, reserve all our ill humour for our wives, children and feryants. We are theek, where we? might meet with opposition; but feel ourfelves undauntedly bold, where we are sure of no effectual resistance.
4. The perverfion of the best things converts them to the worst. Home is certainly well adapted to repofe and folid enjoyment. Among parents and brothers, and all the tender charities of private life, the gentler affections, which are always attended with feelings purely and perImanently pleafurable, find an ample scope for proper exertion.
5. The experienced have often declared, after wearying themselves in pursuing phantoms, that they have found a fubftantial happiness in the domestic circle. Hitherto they